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< Untamed Newsletter ~ Orgasmic Birth, Monogamy, & Sexual Healing |
| Peter Hercules |
 Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 9:14 pm |
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Dear Untamed Newsletter Subscriber,
I have the pleasure of receiving comments and suggestions from all over the world in the form of emails sent directly to me because of my site and I would like to share some of this with you.
A fellow on the east coast of the USA frequently sends me an array of information that he thinks might interest me.
One article ( http://articles.mercola.com:80/sites/articles/archive/2008/3/13/pioneering-midwife-touts-quot-orgasmic-birth-quot.aspx ) discusses the topic of 'orgasmic birth' being promoted by a renowned American midwife, Ina May Gaskin.
As a family doctor, I practiced obstetrics until 1999 and over the years participated in several hundred births (which provided me with some of the best 'highs' of my medical career). A number of years ago I attended an intensive obstetrics course for doctors that was put on, in part, by Ms. Gaskin.
She is an inspiring person who has dedicated a great deal of her life's energy to empowering women and to humanizing pregnancy and birthing, and is a leading proponent of natural childbirth. Given my understanding of the extremely important impact of prenatal and birth experiences upon the physical and emotional well-being of an individual (both mother and child), such efforts are to be greatly commended and encouraged.
Almost invariably within the standard modern medical structure of things, pregnancy and childbirth are dealt with as diseases that need to be treated and managed by medical experts. In the process, both mother and child are commonly severely traumatized and alienated from themselves, each other, and the opportunity to experience this very special process in a more healthy and pleasurable manner.
While there has been some progress in this area over the last few decades, there is tremendous work still to be done so that human animals may begin their lives as naturally and comfortingly as possible, with technological intrusions only utilized when absolutely necessary.
Liberating the caged human animal in part involves liberating its process of reproduction, in all of its aspects. Future change in this direction will inevitably be driven by women, who along the way lost their rightful control of their own bodies. Ms. Gaskin is one of the women who are blazing the path.
The same newsletter subscriber sent me another link addressing the topic 'Are Humans Meant to be Monogamous?' ( http://www.livescience.com//mysteries/080319-llm-monogamy.html - and I invite you to take 'The Sex Quiz' at the end of the article)
The answer, of course, is no, at least certainly not in the style of the animal husbandry moralities that society and religion have invented and imposed upon domesticated humans in order to focus them on being productive obedient machines rather than sensual wild animals. As Wilhelm Reich understood (see his book 'The Sexual Revolution'), taming sexuality is a fundamental component of human enslavement.
With this in mind, a few years ago I organized a sexuality workshop here in Mississippi and invited a female sexual healer from California, who came to help address sexual problems and to teach how to enhance sexual development and enjoyment. She was a very skilled and caring individual who had a lot of knowledge to share with those who took advantage of the opportunity of her visit to this very sexually repressed part of the world.
Her overall approach to sex was that it should be a profound and ecstatically pleasurable experience to be extensively explored in order to heighten one's personal development and self-awareness. The notion that it should be limited to one sexually exclusive lifelong relationship made no more sense to her than the ideas of eating the same food or wearing the same clothing day in and out would have.
She was especially focused on the high prevalence of sexual trauma in both sexes, but particularly among females, and on the importance of addressing these past traumas in order to unblock oneself and achieve wholeness and well-being. She used personalized hands-on methods to help achieve this, which she had learned and developed over a period of greater than thirty years in her unique profession.
One of the important components of her work with women involved helping them learn to experience and enjoy G-spot orgasms and ejaculation. Although there exists some controversy regarding the authenticity of these phenomena, sexual literature and female experience increasingly indicate them to be genuine.
Her approach to helping women in this regard typically involved, among other techniques, intravaginal stimulation using a simple device that she had invented herself. One of the main reasons for doing this (with the women using this device either on their own, or with a partner, or with her) was to enable her clients to connect with emotional and/or physical discomfort retained from past trauma that they had experienced in order to facilitate them working through the associated issues.
Her objective was to enable her clients to liberate their pelvises from the pain and armoring which they almost universally had stored there as a result of their trauma. The ultimate reward of this process was to be able to explore a new and heightened level of pleasure and freedom (as expressed, in part, by the ability to enjoy G-spot orgasms and ejaculation) that would spread from this anatomical center of life and regeneration throughout their whole organism, ideally facilitating an overall process of growth and integration.
As I have discussed elsewhere, sperm warfare is very common among animals, including our own species (see the book 'Sperm Wars' by Robin Baker). To a great extent, the vagina has been its human battlefield. During the course of civilization this warfare has taken on unprecedented levels of destructiveness among humans, paralleling intravaginally the horrors that have taken place on the outside between tribes and states. If healing of these wounds should ever occur, methods that focus on the female pelvis will be central.
Despite the unconventionality of the approaches used by this sexual healer, I consider her to have been pursuing a vital agenda and one that is, not surprisingly, almost completely ignored within civilized society. Her methods and objectives go far beyond what is commonly presented in the grocery store newsstand press regarding 'how to enhance your love life'. I understand her to be, in many respects, on the right track.
During my discussions with her she suggested viewing the motion picture, 'Bliss'. While it was obviously a somewhat low budget production and a bit stilted, it is, nonetheless, an interesting exploration of the topic of sexual healing, and well worth seeing.
A very important focus of its attention is on relationship dynamics and their role in perpetuating dysfunction and/or facilitating healing. Tellingly, when the male protagonist of the movie seeks out how to help his wife address her sexual issues, he is instructed by a sexual healer that to do so he must solve his own.
While the film makes it quite clear that each person is ultimately responsible for its own healing, it also shows that both parties in a relationship are inevitably similarly limited in their personal and sexual development. We are generally drawn to those who share our level of pathology (or, conversely, our level of health, although overall at this time we are a very sick species, so 'pathology' may be the more appropriate defining term). As a function of this, when one member of a couple decides to move towards a more healthy level of being, the other must either do the same or the relationship will die.
Another extremely significant topic brought forward in the movie is childhood sexual abuse and its multifaceted damaging implications. In my work involving Rational-Emotional Integrative Updating, I was so inundated with accounts of the sexual abuse of children, particularly within the family, that at times I began to wonder if anyone, particularly any females, had not been sexually abused by a close family member.
While the reasons for this epidemic are multiple, fundamentally they express the failures of the present order of things - particularly how disempowered females are within present societies and, equally importantly, how insecure, frustrated (sexually and otherwise), and self-alienated males are. Only such a male would sexually abuse a child, particularly his own relative (or, for that matter, sexually abuse anyone). Obviously, a tremendously significant number of civilized males fall into that category.
I found the sexual healer’s work to be both very interesting and practical. Like many sexual practitioners, however, she came with a New Age view of reality, which I perceived to hold her back as an individual and in her work, and damaged her overall credibility to some degree, at least for those like myself who strive to have a non-mystical understanding of things (of course, she would probably make the same type of comment, in reverse, about me).
(An aside : My observation of New Age ‘thinking’ (the term 'thinking' implies the use of reason) is that it is driven by a profound and appropriate sense of the dire straits that human animals presently find themselves in. However, undoubtedly due to the severe traumas that they have individually experienced, New Agers respond with an equally profound attempt to escape from reality into a mindset based on mysticism and illogic. Furthermore, those who espouse a logical and analytical approach to the universe are looked down upon and equated by New Agers with those who have created the disaster in the first place. They do not appear to understand, or are unwilling to consider, that rationality is not inimical to life-affirming values but is instead an essential human trait. This is likely in large part because, per my observation, they are intellectually lazy and unwilling to confront fundamental issues within and around themselves. Though they do not usually support the violent agenda of the owners of civilization, their promotion of stupidity and reality-avoidance seriously undermines the development of the attitude, thinking, effort, and courage required to effect healthy change. New Age mindsets can only survive within the zoo and actually aid in its preservation by further disempowering the caged human animals within it.)
Unfortunately, I am not aware of sexual healers/therapists who operate from a perspective highly compatible with the untaming agenda that I present on my site.
That being stated, an internet post that I came upon that covers a lot of practical information on male and female sexuality, without being overly mystical (but unfortunately is also not focused on healing), is entitled ‘The Multi-orgasmic Man’ ( http://www.scribd.com/doc/819017/The-Multiorgasmic-Man - Update July 22/08 - unfortunately this article is no longer available online, an alternate reference is http://www.whitelotuseast.com/MultipleOrgasm.htm ). It contains the type of sexual information that in a more healthy pleasure-oriented and sex-positive culture would be common knowledge.
However, the relative popularization of sophisticated sexual practices and techniques in recent years appears in many respects to be just another form of diversion for caged humans. If one is not liberating oneself overall, then powerful sexual experiences simply become another drug to dull one's pain and to allow temporary escape from the crippling restrictions of civilized existence.
To her great credit, the sexual healer who came to visit us in Mississippi is a woman who definitely strives to empower her clients and to help them heal themselves and, apparently to some significant degree, is successful. However, if, in addition to the useful skills she provides, she also encouraged them to connect with the wild human sexual animal power long repressed within themselves rather than involving ‘the divine’ or ‘the goddess’ or other such mystical concepts (which I discouraged her from including during her visit here), she would be able to help them even moreso, sexually and in many other ways. But inevitably, she simply expresses what she herself believes. (When I last heard of her she was getting even further into mysticism than before.)
Nonetheless, during her visit here she presented ideas and techniques that I had been previously unaware of, and I am appreciative of that.
Furthermore, interacting with her reinforced my position that liberating one's sexuality, by utilizing practical methods to enhance pleasure and to focus on sexual healing, is an integral part of human untaming.
Regards,
Peter Hercules
P.S. I was surprised to recently discover that my writing is used as a reference on the Wikipedia website for Human Female Sexuality ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_female_sexuality ).
P.P.S. - As I had recently advised, the forum on my website is open for business again - i.e. anyone can post on it without going directly through me to do so ( http://www.untamedlife.com/forums/ ).
Since I re-liberated the posting process, once again it has been deluged by those advertising porn, gambling, drugs, music and the like. I weed my forum garden almost every day but, nonetheless, spam keeps popping up. So, if any of you are actually looking for websites providing this type of garbage, please feel free to look them up on my forum. As for the rest of you, if you find it there, I apologize for its presence but it is the price presently paid for providing direct access to it. |
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