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LIBERATING THE CAGED FEMALE HUMAN ANIMAL’S SEXUALITY (PART 2)
In Part 1 of this article, I stated that the agenda of civilization - domination - is a male agenda. I suggested that for this to change, female humans should imitate their bonobo chimpanzee cousins and bond with each other in order to create a united front against patriarchal oppression. This bonding would take place at several levels - ideological, emotional, and physical in both a nonsexual and a sexual sense. As a result of this bonding, female sexuality would be liberated and society would change fundamentally. The destructive culture of the warrior human apes would end and be replaced with a pleasure-focused life-affirming agenda that would benefit both sexes. I stated that liberating female sexuality in this manner is the secret to destroying the zoo of civilization and ending patriarchal oppression, which even predates civilization.
The repression of females and female sexuality, in both civilized and precivilized societies, has been anti-life. The female is literally the matrix in and from which all humans develop. The more powerful and fulfilled this matrix is, the greater the human potential. Self-actualized mothers will create offspring with higher likelihood of being self-actualized themselves. Such a female will intuitively know what she needs to generate such offspring. She must have control of her life and particularly her sexuality, since her sexuality determines the choice of with whom, when, and how to create new life.
For too long, the female pelvis has been controlled, abused, and violated. It is the nest and source of life. Each new individual’s most profound period of development takes place there.
In a life-affirming culture, the female pelvis would be worshiped, and satisfying the needs of the female pelvis would be understood to be the highest priorities of that culture. Clearly, females would be recognized to be in the best position to make such determinations and would be encouraged to become sensitive to their pelvic needs.
Males, for their part, would be respectful of the female pelvis and would recognize the wisdom of learning to honor it and the individual in whom it resides. Those males who were most wise in this regard would have the greatest possibility of being granted access to this most special of all places.
Due to our common chimpanzee tendencies, such has never been the case. The society that I am aware of that most closely approximates this objective is the Na, found in a secluded rural area of Himalayan China (and described in the book A Society without Fathers and Husbands: The Na of China written by Cai Hua).
In the Na culture, households are comprised of the female head (the mother) and her children. In this society, males provide economic support to their mothers and sisters and sisters’ children and not to their own offspring. Individuals are able to have sexual relationships (generally furtively and only at night) with whomever they want - and they do, typically with many different partners during their lifetime. Since the males do not give economic support to their own children and often do not even know which children are theirs, the issue of paternity becomes irrelevant. Instead, males invest in children with whom they are sure they have a genetic relationship - their sisters’.
While still problematic in a number of respects, Na culture (which has been undermined significantly in recent years by the national Chinese government) presents a real human model of a society that facilitates fulfillment of female needs.
When I lived in Canada and practiced behavioral medicine on a full time basis, I observed that the vast majority of patients who were interested in addressing their problems were female. I also noted that generally the self-actualization of these women was in part obstructed by the relationships that they had with their male partners. A very significant number of them ended up terminating these relationships as they pursued their personal development. In many cases, as they strove to become closer approximations of their True Positive Selves, they found that a consequence of this decision was their inability to find partners that were committed to a similar agenda. Thus, while they were consistently content with their decisions to end their previous relationships, they were almost as consistently frustrated with their inability to find males sharing similar objectives in life and encouraging them to self-actualize.
In part as a consequence of this reality, I eventually decided to have group discussion sessions for interested clients in order to allow some additional support and opportunity for discussion of issues relevant to the challenging process of self-liberation. Almost everyone attending these sessions was female. Many of these women were getting little other support for the process of self-transformation that they were experiencing. Typically they were being discouraged by their families and friends who were not interested in their own growth and were threatened and challenged by the more confident individuals that my clients were becoming.
While it was stated and understood that each person is ultimately responsible for its own life and self-actualization, it was also understood that the process of change could and would be more enjoyable and easier if shared with someone else on the same path. However, it appeared that deciding to become one’s True Positive Self also meant being increasingly alone. Some of the women who met through these sessions became friends but, due to the artificial nature of these sessions, I held them only for a relatively brief period of time.
At that time, I was not significantly aware of the reality of the patriarchy nor was I familiar with the importance of female sexual repression, the unnaturalness of monogamy or the culture of the bonobos. As a result, my best encouragement at the time for the women that I was treating was to tell them that there were some men out there who shared their visions. I told them to stay true to their personal objectives no matter what and eventually they would encounter such men and have the opportunity to relate to them.
Retrospectively, I now understand that I missed the opportunity that was staring me in the face. I was in a room of women that could have, and in fact needed to bond with other women committed to self-liberation and I did not state the obvious. Instead of seeking out hypothetical self-actualizing males, they should have been encouraged to form alliances with other females on the same path.
The rich whites in slave states used a divide and conquer approach of pitting the lower status whites against the blacks to prevent the two groups from uniting to rebel against the oppression that they each experienced. The male keepers of civilization have done the same with their male and female underlings, with the females finding themselves on the bottom of the pile. As John Lennon stated - "women are the niggers of the world."
The average male may feel powerless within the zoo, but at least he has the opportunity to own a woman. The zoo keepers have encouraged and institutionalized the common chimpanzee patriarchal tendencies of our species in order to further disempower females and to win support from their male underlings. Generally, the most repressed, ignorant, religious, and militaristic males are the ones who most staunchly fight any attempt by females to gain control of their sexuality and their lives in general.
In doing so, they typically seek religious and legal means (besides personal violence) to impose their wills, thus appealing to the very institutions that are used to enslave them as well.
The wars fought between the sexes, at both individual and societal levels, redirect the legitimate frustrations of both groups of slaves regarding their masters towards each other. While it is understood that not all men are defenders of the status quo either overall or with respect to the power struggle between the sexes, it is clear that women should be the most motivated of all for the zoo to collapse - they have the most to gain.
Instead of surrendering to the system and competing with each other for the best personal male ‘masters’ to have in their lives and then seeking devious ways to disempower their male partners, women can refuse to play the game. To do so effectively and end the patriarchal patterns that appear to have originated from the earliest days of our species, they must learn from the bonobos and bond with each other. As the bonobos prove, unified females can get results.
Women committed to self-actualization can join to form largely self-sufficient communities in which the only males (if any) allowed to belong or enter would be those committed to their own self-actualization and to a bonobo morality. In such a community, each person’s first allegiance would be to fulfilling its own genetic program. Because of the bonobo morality, women would be mutually supportive for their own best interests and thus would have control over all aspects of their lives (including and especially issues to do with sexuality and reproduction).
Paternity would become a non-issue because the advantages of the freedom that this community would offer as well as the resources available due to female bonding (as well as the contributions available from whatever males would be in the community) would be much greater than those of the restrictive patriarchal alternative. Men would not be allowed to attempt to ensure paternity with any given female because women would recognize this preoccupation to be counterproductive to their individual well-being and to that of the group giving them this well-being, and thus they would not permit it.
Each child would have its natural mother and many surrogate mothers. It would also interact and connect significantly with the children of its own mother but also with the other children of the community with whom it might also have a genetic link in addition to the bonds created through sharing common experiences.
Each child would also potentially have many fathers. In some cases it may be impossible without genetic testing to discern who the father was and, even if it were obvious, because of the group dynamic it would become less relevant. Those men that refused to participate in this system would ideally never be allowed into the group or, if discovered, would be banished.
While closer relationships would inevitably develop between particular individuals of either sex, all of the women and even all of the men would recognize the benefits of this social approach based on female bonding. People who have all that they need to eat tend not to fight over who gets what piece of food on the table.
This is the critical point. This community would be one based on an ecology of wealth. Just like the bonobos who developed their patterns of conduct in a resource rich environment, for this system to work effectively it also must have plentiful resources. While this may seem to present a problem or mean that such a lifestyle would only be accessible to the rich, such is not the case.
These individuals committed to becoming their wild True Positive Selves would be focused on acquiring what they would really need to be healthy and happy and not on acquiring what is unnecessary, and certainly not on the relentless pursuit of civilized human animals for power and gold.
Healthy food, simple comfortable shelter, a natural environment with clean air, water, and soil, freedom to self-actualize, ample time for rest and pleasure, a satisfying sexual life, and healthy relationships are the true needs of a wild human animal. Everything else is unnecessary.
The creation of small sustainable communities of thirty people or so whose objective would be to satisfy essential human needs while operating within a bonobo type of social structure is a genuine possibility today in many parts of the world.
Turning this potentiality into reality simply requires individuals (particularly women) to stop playing by the rules of the patriarchal zoo and to redefine their priorities. They must understand that even a leash made of diamonds is still a leash. Freedom and self-actualization must be recognized and chosen as being the highest values of all. There are no real winners in patriarchal civilization, there are only degrees of losers.
If enough women choose to untame themselves, bond with other women, take control of their sexuality and thus their lives, and focus on the pursuit of essential human needs, the nightmare of patriarchy and civilization will end and our species can awaken to experience the wonderful pleasure of what life can be.
The creation of cultures dedicated to liberating and worshiping the female pelvis and unlocking the much too long repressed life-affirming energy of the female human animal is the key to what could be paradise on earth.
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